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Genealogy Friends Rock

They do, no matter what road in life we have taken. We all have the same passion and love to talk about it, genealogy. Besides, your family won’t listen to that scandal you uncover on great-uncle Bill, or the fact that you know for sure grandma and grandpa never really married. You can count on your genealogy friends to listen to every story you have to tell and offer up their story to match yours.

Our genealogy friends usually are found at local societies (if you are involved) or online on Facebook, Twitter and many other various social networking websites. We become close friends, that share more than a hobby/passion. We end up sharing stories of our lives, comparing our families and the situations that we have gone through and offer up the best advice we can. We chat daily and become entwined in the others life and become our type of family.

Family by blood is simply that. People that you are related to by birth. You cannot pick your family. That has been done for you. But, this other family, is one by choice. A choice that is conscience. You decide to continue the day to day chatting and sharing and would not have it any other way.

But, how often do you go out of your way to meet these people. Is it better to know them with your online persona, or do you take time out of your life to meet them and really get to know them? Share a meal and great conversation (of course it starts with genealogy). You will find that it will move to many other things, politics, religion, work, family and your furry little pets.

Tonight, I spent the evening with two of my twitter pals @Mynolaheritage and @Archivalbiz. We meet in the city for Italian food and conversation, and I enjoyed both! I have met @Archivalbiz before, but it was the first time we both met @Mynolaheritage. We are all hoping to meet up for FGS2012 in Ohio and rooming together, with a few others. I look forward to the next time we can all get together and enjoy our time together. Oh, if you are not following these ladies on Twitter take the time to do so. They will keep you entertained and informed.

So, my question to you is this. How often do you step out of your comfort zone and take the time to meet some of your online friends?

What Kind of Neighbor Are You in The Genealogy Community?

I try to be a friendly, helpful neighbor. I am sure most of you do as well. If any of you follow me on twitter, @Tracingmyfamily, you know that a few weeks ago I was on a rant about those that are not good neighbors.

It started with an innocent email, requesting help breaking down their brick wall. To be perfectly honest, I was thrilled that someone would ask me for help. I replied the same day to the request and asked the sender to please send me ALL the information they have and I would go through it and where it leads me.

I received an email later that day giving me the details of the family in question. I then started a tree on ancestry.com to see what else I could find, I also searched familysearch.org and the records on a state specific web site. (Please understand that I am being vague to protect all sides involved).

I did not find much beyond the information that was given to me. A census record, a few things of that nature. But nothing to take me back any further than what this person had already found. So, I reached out to this person again via email asking for scanned copies of the records that they might already have. I did get a reply that might have answered a few questions I had, but my request for the vital records was ignored.

At this point, I probably put in about 3 hours of research into this family, and did not mind doing it. I then ended up getting sick and quit research all together (including my family). About a week passed and I received another email from said person asking for an update. I replied that I Have been ill and that when I was feeling better I would continue my search.

Fast forward another week, I am still sick and have not moved forward on any research. I receive yet another email, this one was not so nice. The gist of it was they were deeply disappointed in me.

I was more than furious, how does someone that I have NEVER met send me such a mean email. Especially when I was volunteering to help with their research. I ranted on Twitter and most replied that I should be charging and not be doing this for free.

I waited a few days before replying to the email. Which, is very unlike me, I am usually prompt at replying. I wanted to make sure my reply was to the point and not mean in any way.

I finally pulled my thoughts together and began my reply to this person. Using a few bullet points, I explained a few things, such as: I am doing this for free, it took me over 10 years to break a brick wall down and 2 weeks was not enough time, I also have a life which includes family, my research and my business that I need to run as well. My life needs to come before whatever I am doing out of the goodness of my heart. I also advised that if they are looking for prompt answers they should think about hiring a professional to do their research. I then added that I have requested numerous times for vital records which they have not provided to me.

Two days later, I received a reply and to my surprise it was an apology. This person went on and on about how others have said they would help and never follow through.

So, I put this question to all of you. What kind of neighbor are you?

Most people I have met or interacted with in the genealogy neighborhood are helpful. And, to be perfectly honest, I now that my genealogy neighbors/friends are in my corner no matter what I need. From help with my research, to a joke when I need to smile, to a prayer for family/friends/pets when needed.

Please keep in mind when you interact with our genealogy neighborhood, we are a giving bunch. But, we will not tolerate this type of behavior. I believe these saying’s truly fit the situation, “you catch more bees with honey” and “if you cannot play nice, don’t play at all.”

Please help keep our neighborhood friendly!

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