23 years ago today, I became a Mom. I was young, unprepared and completely in love with the little bundle the doctors put in my arms.
In my family (on both sides), it seemed that having babies started young for everyone. My maternal grandma married and started her family at 16, my parents were the same age. So, when I had my first baby at 17, I was older than most. Yes, it was disappointing for my parents. I believe the phrases “I wanted more for you” and “didn’t you learn from my mistakes” had been used a lot through my pregnancy.
We all do things we wish we can change, but becoming a mother is not one I want to change. As my children get older, I sit back and watch what my friends and relatives are going through with their kids. I truly feel that I was meant to have my family young because today I do not have the energy to run around after a toddler. Its too exhausting after an hour, let alone a full day.
I am not by any means saying that it is ok to have kids at such a young age, I should have been older. We actually watch Teen Mom here to make sure my youngest understands how hard it is to become a parent at such a young age, and how it changes your life and not always for the better.
Anyhow, I am happy with my life and my children. I love them with all of my heart. My oldest, who celebrates her 23rd birthday today is very special to me.
Happy Birthday Brittany, I love you!
My eldest child, Brittany, was born a short 14 days after Christmas on January 8, 1989. This birthday is the big one, 21! How did that happen so fast, I swear it was just yesterday I was running after her trying to keep the ponytail holders in her hair. Little girls, they are a handful and a joy all at once. Though she is now in college and doing her own thing. I am so proud of her. She is the second child in our family working towards a college diploma. I know that for many families this seems strange, but in my family everyone got married and had babies early. Brittany has 1.5 years left for her under graduate and we will see where she goes from there. Granny passed away 2.5 years after this photo was taken.
Three generation photo
Terri, Mary Lachney, Brittany
This picture was taken in OH, in 1989. Brittany was 9 months old. The dress she is wearing still hangs in our house. My Mom bought the dress for her Uncle’s funeral, which is why we were in OH. On this day, we were lucky enough to take a 5 generation photo. Not only was it 5 generations, but it was 5 generations of women! This picture is generation 1 (Mary), generation 4 (Me) and generation 5 (Brittany).
As for her birthday’s, I do not feel any of them were ever small because we just had a holiday. All in all, I think we did a great job making sure her day was special. We never celebrated it during the holiday either, we celebrated the week of her birthday with special dinners out, maybe a play and even a Broadway in Chicago show!
HAPPY 21st BIRTHDAY BRITTANY
Another birthday that is celebrated around the holidays is my Mom’s. This year Mom is turning 60! See her picture above with Brittany and myself. It seems like Mom’s birthday was always lumped in with Christmas when we were growing up. My parents were divorced and we lived with my Dad, so we had to give Mom her birthday present at Christmas. This year is different! Mom has moved out of state and our plan is to go and see her. It was going to be a surprise, but Grandma has been diagnosed with Lung Cancer, so Mom now knows we are coming because she had to help me pick dates that would be better for a visit with Grandma. I plan to still make her 60th very special!